A real conversation takes place in a clear space without expectations or projections. This is difficult to do for most people, since fear and need-states occupy a prominent part of what we accept as the basis for speaking with others.
To hear clearly, one must be willing to hear and not afraid to hear. Then, only truth will emerge.
To speak clearly, one must be able to remain connected with one's center and the center of feeling that lies in the heart. Then it will be possible to know what to say.
Listening with openness and without projection is an act of love. It invites reciprocity. It nourishes innocence. It allows Divine love to infuse the conversation. Then, all can emerge that love makes possible.
See the earlier articles on 'How to Have a Conversation':
How to have a Conversation
Letting Go of Defenses